Hi there, I hope you’ve had a great few weeks.
Have you been embracing the whiteboard?
Did you practice using the “language of football” to get your team organised?
A quick re-cap of what we covered in the last session –
- 1%’s (one percenters)
- Weekly Focus
- K.P.I.’s (Key Performance Indicators)
Keep using the language and encouraging your family with words like support, back up and follow-up. These are powerful words, they spread positivity and help with team work. Keep using “Coaches Voice” to really get your point across.
This week we will be focussing on encouraging your family to do things for you (and the team)………because they want to.
I know! It’s an amazing concept, but I’ve seen it in action.
During my many years as a student of the game, and as the wife of a player and coach, I have seen people do things that they cannot possibly want to do. Players will perform tasks of unbelievable courage and strength, just because the coach says so.
Or is it?
I’ll let you in on the secret, they do it for their place in the team and votes.
One of the biggest fears of the footballer is being “dropped” (explanation below) and one of the biggest draw cards is the chance to be best on ground, most courageous, and possibly get a trophy at the end of the year at presentation night.
In this, the second session of “Embracing the Whiteboard”, I will show you how to harness the power of the “being dropped” and the “votes system”, to get things done around your house and to have your family competing for your approval.
Don’t forget to watch the short instructional video that will put all we have learnt into practice and give you a format from which to learn the language.
You’re here, let’s get started.
Part 2a- Do you want to be dropped?
In the football club environment players are rewarded for holding their spot in the team. The rewards can be elevated status, higher payments, leadership responsibilities and the respect of the players, and others around the club. So you can imagine how devastating it is to be dropped.
- Being dropped – a player may have been playing in the Firsts (the really good ones) for a couple of weeks and then their form starts to slip. They might stop following the team rules, not playing to their normal level and thinking they can rest on their laurels. After a couple of weeks of the coach trying to discuss their form and offer feedback, nothing changes, this player might be dropped. This means that they will then play in the two’s (also known as the development side, not as good as the firsts). The player will then need to prove themselves, to regain their spot in the team.
At home this might look like – numerous discussions have been had regarding room cleanliness and the level of help with household chores declining. The child in question may be relying on the fact that they have always done it, to get them through. An opportunity comes up for a fun family outing and unfortunately the child in question is “dropped” for poor performance and will be spending the day at Crazy Aunty Evie’s house. She has no WiFi and there is a strange smell in her house that no-one can identify.
Someone doesn’t have to be dropped each week. If everyone is performing then they hold their spot. But it’s a good thing to have having over their heads. If they drop form, they get dropped.
Part 2b – Embracing the votes system
In the football club environment the votes are normally read out at the end of the game and in senior football clubs it’s a good draw card to motivate the players and supporters to stay around the club after the game. Good for morale, club culture and the bar takings. By harnessing the power of the votes system at home, you too can lift morale and build a family culture.
The votes system is a great way to increase resilience and to let your family know that not everyone gets a prize, but everyone can give themselves every opportunity to succeed. Although you won’t word it as such, the votes system allows you to have a your children compete to be your “favourite for the week or month”.
- Votes – Players are awarded votes by the umpires and the coaching staff. Votes are read out at the end of the game. Prizes from local businesses are also attached to the votes. Everyone loves it when the bald guy at the club gets the hairdresser award. Don’t be afraid to inject a bit of humour into your votes.
At home this might look like- me assigning a set of points to various tasks and behaviours around the house. You can give points to many tasks, some of my personal favourites are- cleaning the toilet, folding the washing, walking the dog, cooking dinner, putting the bins out and making my cup of tea just the way I like it. Points are also given for supporting and helping others.
Your decision is final and no negotiation will be entered into.
A tally is kept and at the end of the month (You can do it weekly too), I read out the votes. Don’t feel bad if you have 2 children and only 1 gets an award. Hello resilience! Awards are earned not given out willy nilly, someone needs to work a little harder next week.
Please watch this short instructional video to see the “Being Dropped” and “Votes” speeches in action.
The next session is a special one!
We will be focussing on using the language of football to get your needs met in the boudoir!! It’s an informative session and good for all skill levels.