Donna Penny has written a book called “Why my mummy?” to explain to her son Kai about her terminal cancer. There was no resource available in bookshops.
I implore you to google her, read her story, let yourself feel and then donate to the crowd fund that has been set up to have this book printed.
I am in awe of people who are able to channel their energy and limited time into something that will not only benefit their children or family, but leave a lasting resource to help many others.
Donna, your story made me smile, bawl like a baby and encouraged me to to live more, make more memories and shout about how much I love those closest to me from the rooftops. I thank you of the important reminder.
It got me thinking. What advice, message or wisdom would I want to share with my girls?
I’m so blessed to have seen them grow into amazing young women. Strong, determined, funny, genetically mystifyingly gorgeous, kind, empathetic, stubborn, hardworking and smart young women.
To say I’m proud is an understatement.
I also probably pass on way too much information for their liking as it is but, there’s more.
Your happiness is your responsibility. Don’t let anyone else control it. Others can share or add to it but you get the final say.
Your body is the vehicle that will get you to all the places you need to go in life. Take care of it, fuel it, respect it and make sure others do too.
Dance, sing and be silly. Laugh until you cry and your stomach hurts. It feels so good to let go.
You only get one vagina so take care of it. If you are ignoring it, so should everyone else!
Be a good friend. Keeps someone’s secret and trust someone enough to tell them yours.
Spend money on good bras and undies. Trust me as gravity takes it’s toll you’ll be glad you did!
If you choose to get married, marry someone who makes you laugh and challenges you mentally. Oh, you should really, really love them and tell them everyday.
If you choose to have children, give yourself to the experience and never regret a moment. You get one chance to raise your babies, kiss their toes, smell their hair and fall asleep with them.
Learn to cook at least one great meal. More importantly make your house a place that is welcoming and full of laughter. If you can’t cook serve lots of wine so no one notices.
Learn to budget.
The rule to dressing is boobs or legs. Choose one to expose, but never both.
Over the years I have given much advice, in many forms. Dance, song poetry and not to scale diagrams. But I know that it would never be enough. I would be angry, I would feel cheated and I would be so sad at the thought of not seeing my children become their adult selves.
To wonder have I done enough, did I make enough memories, did my kids know who I was?
For the women who have faced this battle with such grace, dignity and class, I am in awe of you and I will honour your memory by remembering you and the example you have set.
I will be forever grateful and I will keep you in my heart and thoughts. You have inspired me to be more present and to live in the moments I am creating with my family.
Please donate to Donna Penny’s crowd fund, or find a women’s charity that strikes a chord with you. Donate your time at your children’s school or volunteer at a local hospital.
Be more present and be grateful for every moment we are privileged to experience.